80/20 Rule for Life

A good rule to follow for one to have a happy and contented life
 
Reality---Worth Reading. 
QUOTE ' DO NOT LOOK BACK AND ASK WHY, LOOK FORWARD AND ASK WHY NOT' 

 
A very valuable lesson to learn ...


Interesting quote from the movie 'Why did I get married?' 
In most cases, especially in relationships, you will only get 80% of what you NEED and you will hardly get the other 20% that you WANT in your relationship. There is always another person (man or women) that you will meet and that will offer you the other 20% which is lacking in your relationship that you WANT And believe me, 20% looks really good when you are not getting it at all in your current relationship. 
But the problem is that you will always be tempted to leave that good 80% that you know you have, thinking that you will get something better with the other 20% that you WANT 
But as reality has proven, in most cases, you will always end up with having the 20% that you WANT and loosing the 80% that you really NEED and that you already had. 
Be careful in deciding between what you WANT and NEED in your life. 


Adultery happens when you start looking for what you don't have. 'Wow, this girl in my office is a real looker. But it's not her Wynona Rider features that got me. I'm crazy about her because she's also understanding, intelligent, tender - so many things that my spouse is not' 

Somewhere along the way, you'll find a woman or a man who will be more charming or sensitive. More alluring. More thoughtful. Richer. Have greater sex appeal. And you will find a woman or man who will need you and pursue you and go loco over you more than your spouse ever did. 

Because no wife or husband is perfect. Because a spouse will only have 80% of what you're looking for. So adultery takes place when a husband or wife looks for the missing 20%. Let's say your wife is melancholic by nature. 

You may find yourself drawn to the pretty clerk who has a cherry laugh no matter what she says: 'I broke my arm yesterday, Hahahaha . . ..' 

Or because your wife is a homebody in slippers and pajamas, smelling of garlic and fish oil, you may fall for a fresh-smelling young sales representative that visits your office in a sharp black blazer, high heels, and a red pencil-cut skirt Or because your husband is the quiet
type, your heart may skip a beat when you meet an old college flame who has the makings of a talk show host. 

But wait! That's only 20% of what you don't have. 

Don't throw away the 80% that you already have! 

That's not all. Add to your spouse's 80% the 100% that represents all the years that you have been with each other. The storms you have weathered together. The unforgettable moments of sadness and joy as a couple. The many adjustments you have made to love the other. The wealth of memories that you've accumulated as lovers. 

Adultery happens when you start looking for what you don't have. 

But faithfulness happens when you start thanking God for what you already have. 

But I'm not just talking about marriage. 

I'm talking about life! 

About your jobs. 
About your friends. 
About your children. 
About your lifestyles. 

Are you like the economy airline passenger that perennially peeks through the door of the first class cabin, obsessed with what he's missing? 'They have got more leg room! Oh my, their food is served in porcelain! Wow, their seats recline at an 80% angle and they've got personal videos!'

I guarantee you'll be miserable for the entire trip! Don't live your life like that. Forget about what the world says is first class. Do you know that there are many first class passengers who are miserable in first class -- because they are not riding in a private Lear Jet?

The main message???

If you start appreciating what you have right now, wherever you are, you are first class!

Heart Attacks And Drinking Warm Water

This is a very good article. Not only about the warm water after your meal, but about Heart Attacks . The Chinese and Japanese drink hot tea with their meals, not cold water, maybe it is time we adopt their drinking habit while eating.

 
For those who like to drink cold water, this article is applicable to you. It is nice to have a cup of cold drink after a meal. However, the cold water will solidify the oily stuff that you have just consumed. It will slow down the digestion. Once this 'sludge' reacts with the acid, it will break down and be absorbed by the intestine faster than the solid food. It will line the intestine. Very soon, this will turn into fats and lead to cancer. It is best to drink hot soup or warm water after a meal. 

Common Symptoms Of Heart Attack... 
A serious note about heart attacks - You should know that not every heart attack symptom is going to be the left arm hurting . Be aware of intense pain in the jaw line . 
You may never have the first chest pain during the course of a heart attack.Nausea and intense sweating are also common symptoms. 60% of people who have a heart attack while they are asleep do not wake up. Pain in the jaw can wake you from a sound sleep. Let's be careful and be aware. The more we know, the better chance we could survive. 

A cardiologist says if everyone who reads this message sends it to 10 people, you can be sure that we'll save at least one life. Read this & Send to a friend. It could save a life. So, please be a true friend and send this article to all your friends you care about.

Dangerous PILL

PASS THIS ON EVEN IF YOU DO NOT USE IT 

Recently this past week, a friend's cousin Nicole Dishuk (age 31...newly graduated student with a doctoral degree about to start her new career as a Doctor...) was flown into a nearby hospital, because she passed out. 

They found a blood clot in her neck, and immediately took her by helicopter to the ER to operate. By the time they removed the right half of her skull to relieve the pressure on her brain; the clot had spread to her brain causing severe damage. 

Since last Wednesday night, she was battling... they induced her into a coma to stop the blood flow, they operated 3 times... Finally, they said there was nothing left that they could do... they found multiple clots in the left side of her brain.... the swelling wouldn't stop, and she was on life support... 

She died at 4:30 yesterday. She leaves behind a husband, a 2yr old Brandon and a 4yr old Justin... The CAUSE of DEATH - they found was a birth control she was taking that allows you to only have your period 3 times a year... They said it interrupts life's menstrual cycle, and although it is FDA approved... shouldn't be - So to the women in my address book - I ask you to boycott this product & deal with your period once a month - so you can live the rest of the months that your life has in store for you. 

*Please send this to every woman you know - you may save someone's life... Remember, you have a CYCLE for a reason! 

The name of this new birth control pill is LYBREL . If you go to Lybrel.com ( http://lybrel. com, )you will find at least 26 pages of information regarding this drug. 

The second birth control pill is, SEASONIQUE . If you go to the website of, ( Seasonique.com ) http://seasonique. com , you will find 43 pages of information regarding this drug. 

The warnings and side effects regarding both pills are horrible. Please, please forward this information to as many daughters AND sons, co-workers, friends and relatives. Several lives have already been changed. 

A lemon a day, keeps the doctor away-25 health benefits!

25 Health Benefits of Lemons  

1. Lemon being a citrus fruit, fights against infection. It helps in  
production of WBC's and antibodies in blood which attacks the invading  
microorganism and prevents infection.  

2. Lemon is an antioxidant which deactivates the free radicals preventing  
many dangerous diseases like stroke, cardiovascular diseases and cancers.  

3. Lemon lowers blood pressure and increases the levels of HDL (good  
cholesterol).  

4. Lemon is found to be anti-carcinogenic which lower the rates of colon,  
prostate, and breast cancer. They prevent faulty metabolism in the cell,  
which can predispose a cell to becoming carcinogenic. Also blocks the  
formation of nitrosamines in the gut.  

5. Lemon juice is said to give a glow to the skin.  

6. A few drops of lemon juice in hot water are believed to clear the  
digestive system and purify liver as well.  

7. The skin of lemon dried under the sun and then ground to make powder  
can be applied to the hair for a few minutes before bath which relieves  
head ache and cools the body.  

8. Applying lemon juice to acne dries the existing ones and prevents from  
getting more.  

9. Lemon juice acts as a natural hair lightner and skin bleach which  
reduces the pigment melanin and prevents the risk of chemical allergic  
reactions which is common with hair dyes and bleaches.  

10. Lemon juice is given to relieve gingivitis, stomatitis, and  
inflammation of the tongue.  

11. Lemon juice is given to prevent common cold.  

12. Lemon juice is given to prevent or treat urinary tract infection and  
gonorrhea.  

13. Lemon juice is applied to the sites of bites and stings of certain  
insects to relieve its poison and pain.  

14. Lemon juice relieves colic pain and gastric problems.  

15. Lemon juice soothes the dry skin when applied with little glycerin.  

16. Lemon juice used for marinating seafood or meat kills bacteria and  
other organisms present in them, thereby prevents many gastro-intestinal  
tract infections.  

17. Lemon juice with a pinch of salt (warm) every morning lowers  
cholesterol levels and brings down your weight.  

18. Lemon juice is the best drink to prevent dehydration and shock in case  
of diarrhea.  

19. Lemon juice can also be used as a mouthwash. It removes plaque, whitens  
the teeth and strengthens the enamel.  

20. A table spoon on thick lemon syrup everyday relieves asthma.  

21. Lemon juice relieves chilblains and itchy skin.  

22. Gargling lemon juice relieves throat infection and also used as a  
treatment for diphtheria.  

23. Lemon juice is an excellent treatment for dandruff and greasy hair.  

24. Lemon applies over the face removes wrinkles and keeps you young.  

25. Lemon juice helps to prevent and cure osteoarthritis.  

Lemon is not usually allergic or toxic to many, so why don't you try its  
Natural benefits first and then go on to medical treatment.

Waste or not to waste our food?

Dear ALL,

Please watch thebelow and think...  
 

Think twice before u throw that piece of KFC away.

Sixty uses of Salt

1. If you drop a whole egg on the floor, pour salt all over the egg, let it sit for awhile, then use dustpan, the egg will come right up, without all that mess. Contributed by Ms. Jerry McGinnis. 

2. Soak stained hankies in salt water before washing. 

3. Sprinkle salt on your shelves to keep ants away. 

4. Soak fish in salt water before decaling; the scales will come off easier. 

5. Put a few grains of rice in your saltshaker for easier pouring. 

6. Add salt to green salads to prevent wilting. 

7. Test the freshness of eggs in a cup of salt water; fresh eggs sink;bad ones float. 

8. Add a little salt to your boiling water when cooking eggs; a cracked egg will stay in its shell this way. 

9. A tiny pinch of salt with egg whites makes them beat up fluffier. 

10. Soak wrinkled apples in a mildly salted water solution to perk them up. 

11. Rub salt on your pancake griddle and your flapjacks won't stick. 

12. Soak toothbrushes in salt water before you first use them; they will last longer. 

13. Use salt to clean your discolored coffee pot. 

14. Mix salt with turpentine to whiten you bathtub and toilet bowl. 

15. Soak your nuts in salt brine overnight and they will crack out of their shells whole. Just tap the end of the shell with a hammer to break it open easily. 

16. Boil clothes pins in salt water before using them and they will last longer. 

17. Clean brass, copper and pewter with paste made of salt and vinegar, thickened with flour 

18. Add a little salt to the water your cut flowers will stand in for a longer life. 

19. Pour a mound of salt on an ink spot on your carpet; let the salt soak up the stain. 

20. Clean your iron by rubbing some salt on the damp cloth on the ironing surface. 

21. Adding a little salt to the water when cooking foods in a double boiler will make the food cook faster. 

22. Use a mixture of salt and lemon juice to clean piano keys. 

23. To fill plaster holes in your walls, use equal parts of salt and starch, with just enough water to make stiff putty. 

24. Rinse a sore eye with a little salt water. 

25. Mildly salted water makes an effective mouthwash. Use it hot for a sore throat gargle. 

26. Dry salt sprinkled on your toothbrush makes a good tooth polisher. 

27. Use salt for killing weeds in your lawn. 

28. Eliminate excess suds with a sprinkle of salt. 

29. A dash of salt in warm milk makes a more relaxing beverage. 

30. Before using new glasses, soak them in warm salty water for a while. 

31. A dash of salt enhances the taste of tea. 

32. Salt improves the taste of cooking apples. 

33. Soak your clothesline in salt water to prevent your clothes from freezing to the line; likewise, use salt in your final rinse to prevent the clothes from freezing. 

34. Rub any wicker furniture you may have with salt water to prevent yellowing. 

35. Freshen sponges by soaking them in salt water. 

36. Add raw potatoes to stews and soups that are too salty. 

37. Soak enamel pans in salt water overnight and boil salt water in them next day to remove burned-on stains. 

38. Clean your greens in salt water for easier removal of dirt. 

39. Gelatin sets more quickly when a dash of salt is added. 

40. Fruits put in mildly salted water after peeling will not discolor. 

41. Fabric colors hold fast in salty water wash. 

42. Milk stays fresh longer when a little salt is added. 

43. Use equal parts of salt and soda for brushing your teeth. 

44. Sprinkle salt in your oven before scrubbing clean. 

45. Soaked discolored glass in a salt and vinegar solution to remove stains. 

46. Clean greasy pans with a paper towel and salt. 

47. Salty water boils faster when cooking eggs. 

48. Add a pinch of salt to whipping cream to make it whip more quickly. 

49. Sprinkle salt in milk-scorched pans to remove odour. 

50. A dash of salt improves the taste of coffee. 

51. Boil mismatched hose in salty water and they will come out matched. 

52. Salt and soda will sweeten the odor of your refrigerator. 

53. Cover wine-stained fabric with salt; rinse in cool water later.. 

54. Remove offensive odours from stove with salt and cinnamon. 

55. A pinch of salt improves the flavor of cocoa. 

56. To remove grease stains in clothing, mix one part salt to four parts alcohol. 

57. Salt and lemon juice removes mildew. 

58. Sprinkle salt between sidewalk bricks where you don't want grass growing. 

59. Polish your old kerosene lamp with salt for a brighter look. Remove odors from sink drainpipes with a strong, hot solution of salt water. 

60. If a pie bubbles over in your oven, put a handful of salt on top of the spilled juice. The mess won't smell and will bake into a dry, light crust which will wipe off easily when the oven has cooled.

SIGNS OF OVARIAN CANCER

SIGNS OF OVARIAN CANCER 
(Even In The Absence Of Ovaries)
An Eye-Opener On Ovarian Cancer
THIS IS A MUST TO READ TO THE END  
 
I hope you all take the time to read this and pass it on to all you can. Send this to the women in your life that you care about. 
 
Years ago, Gilda Radner died of ovarian cancer. Her symptoms were inconclusive, and she was treated for everything under the sun until it was too late. This blood test finally identified her illness but alas, too late. She wrote a book to heighten awareness. Gene Wilder is her widower. 
 
Kathy's Story: this is the story of Kathy West 
As all of you know, I have Primary Peritoneal Cancer. This cancer has only recently been identified as its OWN type of cancer, but it is essentially Ovarian Cancer. 
 
Both types of cancer are diagnosed in the same way, with the 'tumor marker' CA-125 BLOOD TEST, and they are treated in the same way - surgery to remove the primary tumor and then chemotherapy with Taxol and Carboplatin. 
 
Having gone through this ordeal, I want to save others from the same fate . That is why I am sending this message to you and hope you will print it and give it or send it via E-mail to everybody you know. 
 
One thing I have learned is that each of us must take TOTAL responsibility for our own health care. I thought I had done that because I always had an annual physical and PAP smear, did a monthly Self-Breast Exam, went to the dentist at least twice a year, etc. I even insisted on a sigmoidoscopy and a bone density test last year. When I had a total hysterectomy in 1993, I thought that I did not have to worry about getting any of the female reproductive organ cancers. 
 
LITTLE DID I KNOW. I don't have ovaries (and they were HEALTHY when they were removed), but I have what is essentially ovarian cancer. Strange, isn't it? 
These are just SOME of the things our Doctors never tell us: ONE out of every 55 women will get OVARIAN or PRIMARY PERITONEAL CANCER. 
 
The 'CLASSIC' symptoms are an ABDOMEN that rather SUDDENLY ENLARGES and CONSTIPATION and/or DIARRHEA .
 
I had these classic symptoms and went to the doctor. Because these symptoms seemed to be 'abdominal', I went to a gastroenterologist. He ran tests that were designed to determine whether there was a bacteria infection; these tests were negative, and I was diagnosed with 'Irritable Bowel Syndrome'. I guess I would have accepted this diagnosis had it not been for my enlarged abdomen. I swear to you, it looked like I was 4-5 months pregnant! I therefore insisted on more tests 
 
They took an X-ray of my abdomen; it was negative. I was again assured that I had Irritable Bowel Syndrome and was encouraged to go on my scheduled month-long trip to Europe . I couldn't wear any of my slacks or shorts because I couldn't get them buttoned, and I KNEW something was radically wrong. I INSISTED on more tests, and they reluctantly) scheduled me for a CT-Scan (just to shut me up, I think). This is what I mean by 'taking charge of our own health care.' 
 
The CT-Scan showed a lot of fluid in my abdomen (NOT normal). Needless to say, I had to cancel my trip and have FIVE POUNDS of fluid drawn off at the hospital (not a pleasant experience I assure you), but NOTHING compared to what was ahead of me. 
 
Tests revealed cancer cells in the fluid. Finally, finally, finally, the doctor ran a CA-125 blood test, and I was properly diagnosed. 
I HAD THE CLASSIC SYMPTOMS FOR OVARIAN CANCER, AND YET THIS SIMPLE CA-125 BLOOD TEST HAD NEVER BEEN RUN ON ME, not as part of my annual physical exam and not when I was symptomatic. This is an inexpensive and simple blood test! 
 
PLEASE, PLEASE TELL ALL YOUR FEMALE FRIENDS AND RELATIVES TO INSIST ON A CA-125 BLOOD TEST EVERY YEAR AS PART OF THEIR ANNUAL PHYSICAL EXAMS. 
 
Be fore warned that their doctors might try to talk them out of it, saying, 'IT ISN'T NECESSARY.' Believe me, had I known then what I know now, we would have caught my cancer much earlier (before it was a stage 3 cancer). Insist on the CA-125 BLOOD TEST; DO NOT take 'NO' for an answer! 
 
The normal range for a CA-125 BLOOD TEST is between zero and 35. MINE WAS 754. (That's right, 754!). If the number is slightly above 35, you can have another done in three or six months and keep a close eye on it, just as women do when they have fibroid tumors or when men have a slightly elevated PSA test (Prostatic Specific Antigens) that helps diagnose prostate cancer. 
 
Having the CA-125 test done annually can alert you early, and that's the goal in diagnosing any type of cancer - catching it early. 
 
Do you know 55 women? If so, at least one of them will have this VERY AGGRESSIVE cancer. Please, go to your doctor and insist on a CA-125 test and have one EVERY YEAR for the rest of your life. 
 
And forward this message to every woman you know, and tell all of your female family members and friends. Though the median age for this cancer is 56, (and, guess what, I'm exactly 56, women as young as 22 have it. Age is no factor. 
 
A NOTE FROM THE RN: 
Well , after reading this, I made some calls. I found that the CA-125 test is an ovarian screening test equivalent to a man's PSA test prostate screen (which my husband's doctor automatically gives him in his physical each year and insurance pays for it). I called the general practitioner's office about having the test done. The nurse had never heard of it. She told me that she doubted that insurance would pay for it. So I called Prudential Insurance Co, and got the same response. Never heard of it - it won't be covered. I explained that it was the same as the PSA test they had paid for my husband for years. After conferring with whomever they confer with, she t old me that the CA-125 would be covered. 
 
It is $75 in a GP's office and $125 at the GYN's. This is a screening test that should be required just like a PAP smear (a PAP smear cannot detect problems with your ovaries). And you must insist that your insurance company pay for it. 
 
Gene Wilder and Pierce Brosnan (his wife had it, too) are lobbying for women's health issues, saying that this test should be required in our physicals, just like the PAP and the mammogram. PLEASE TAKE A MOMENT TO SEND THIS OUT TO ALL THOSE YOU CAN. BE IT MALE OR FEMALE, IT SHOULD NOT MATTER, AS THEY CAN FORWARD IT ALSO TO THOSE LOVED ONES THEY KNOW. 
 
IF YOU HAVE A PROBLEM WITH FORWARDING SOMETHING AS IMPORTANT AS THIS, HERE'S A LITTLE HINT THAT MAY ASSIST YOU WITH YOUR DECISION ~ JUST PRETEND THAT THIS IS A JOKE, WHICH IT CERTAINLY IS NOT, AND SEND IT OUT TO ALL THE FOLKS YOU WOULD IF IT WAS. THANKS